Nigeria’s version of the Big Brother reality show is largely being ignored this year. Some even asked the government to ban it. It was ruining their kids. With pangs of hunger and a lack of data (pronounced da:ta: in the country) you could hardly blame them. Until Khafi Kareen, one of the house mates ,was caught on camera in very salacious circumstances with 31-year-old fellow housemate, Akpata Gedon.
And so,people decided to obliterate the hell that life has become in Nigeria by shifting focus to the affair. It doesn’t matter anymore that data costs money. Anything to lower the blood pressures. What’s more, everyone has become an expert on what is right or what isn’t.
Khafi’s sex story is newsworthy for a variety of reasons.
London Metropolitan police:
For some reasons of insecurity, a lack of self-esteem, something in which Nigerians seem to have an abnormally large dose, the show’s organisers decided to use Nigerians in Diaspora. It gives(so they must think) the yearly kitsch an aura of the international even though it was meant to pick the best locally. What and who could be more international than a real police woman of the London Metropolitan police. Ms Khafi Kareen, originally from Nigeria’s Ekiti, enlisted in the force in London in 2015 as a Constable. The problem for Ms Kareem is either an acute ignorance that being a law enforcement official comes with responsibilities as it does perks. It is the reason they under go training in structure and discipline. It is also very possible that she is an insecure person who saw the show as an easy path to advertising herself in the hope becoming whole.
Now, she has got the notice but attached,is a stain. A shouty one. First, Ms Kareem didn’t get the approval of her office to take a part in the show.
The department has all but disowned her. According to London Evening standard:
The Met is aware that the officer has since appeared on the show without authority.
“The Directorate of Professional Standards has been informed and will be carrying out an investigation into the circumstances.
“The Met does not support the officer’s appearance, nor does she represent the Met whilst appearing on the show.”
The BBC gave Ms Kareem enough coverage: in print and on air. And in the most unflattering language that could only have come from the British Establishment.
Here is one :
“Police officer is appearing on the Nigerian version of Big Brother despite bosses refusing her permission.
The Metropolitan Police said it was carrying out an internal investigation after PC Khafi Kareem went on the programme “without authority”.
Scotland Yard said the 29-year-old had been granted unpaid leave for an “unrelated reason”.
A spokesperson for Ms Kareem said she would “comment on the matter when she can”.
Television channel Africa Magic said Ms Kareem joined Big Brother Naija to “do societal good”.
A profile of Ms Kareem on its website reveals she would spend the prize money, reportedly worth 30 million naira (£68,000), on hosting a travel show in Nigeria, as well as investing in charitable causes.”
On the show, Ms Kareem and seven other contestants are currently nominated for eviction.
Her social media pages have been promoting posts encouraging viewers to “save her”.
Save her exactly from what? To keep her in the show , it would seem because unless I miss my guess, she won’t be resuming her job as a cop. What she probably didn’t know is that in 2017,Sussex police chief, Rob Leet and Sgt Sarah Porter lost their jobs because the department proved that they had affairs “while on active duty” and with their phones switched off.
If the standard wasn’t lowered for a chief, it won’t be for a Constable. A ghastly ambassador for everyone .As a personal promotional drive, to become a celebrity cop, that is ,the endeavour has backfired. Even those who say they support her only cite human nature. That we are all vulnerable. In equal tone, those who think that she has done terribly wrong, including this writer, think that it pays to think in terms of consequences. In appearing in the show without her employer’s approval, she has shown disloyalty. You don’t simply explain that away. I do not see her as a cop again. Not in London, at least. And she has threatened to sue.
Specifically, she wants UK’s Sun to take back an article that said she will lose her job.
The paper had not contacted her for her side of the story and the article,which she termed a “defamatory outburst”, was damaging to her image.
“Khafi’s side of the story is deliberately and conveniently omitted… this comes from a repressive culture of shaming and characterising women for their sexual decisions and life choices,” a statement on her Twitter page read.
For Nigeria, Khafi’s home country, she has revealed that she is not one of the troubled nation’s best exports. That if anything, she is a symptom of one of its general ailments: A lack of self-worth. And for that, she is a bad example for the young.
And for the show? Well, Big Brother Naija is a show where you win a trophy by competing for nothing. South Africa, those who own the show, only exploit a hole in the heart of Nigeria’s soul and people like Khafi make the job easy.Their defence of her behaviour is a de-marketing in itself.
“Police officer Khafi Kareem believes that you can have it all if you believe in yourself.
“She is not only hoping to win the prize money but she wants the exposure that being in Big Brother Naija House brings so that she can do societal good.
“What people don’t know about her is that she is secretly talented in spoken word, singing and dancing. She is an Ekiti native who resides in London.”
And in the thirst for exploitation the show urges people to vote for her. Spend your cash, that is. “@BBN Vote for Khafi now. Only your vote can save her. Voting closes on Thursday.”
Some theorized that Khafi Kareen will be given a slice, a huge one, of the final cash. I doubt. Even so, her lack of a sense of self can’t be helped by all the money in the world.
Finally, Khafi’s debacle is ,like I said earlier, a mirror of a huge problem with Nigeria and Nigerians. In appearing to be smart, they believe in so much appearance, especially when it is foreign, and but paradoxically believing in nothing. Thus easily deceived. Khafi’s story is that a of badly behaved child crying for notice.At 29, Ms Kareem presents a large body of evidence about Nigeria’s psyche. That consequences don’t matter. Some crying shame huh!